• If we suspend reaction (keeping an open, non-judgmental mind), we can perceive life directly
    by becoming aware of and 'letting go' of increasingly 'unpresent' patterns of 'thunk' thought
    (filters that distort our perception of 'now')
  • If we look for and sincerely acknowledge participation, we can enjoy relationship – by avoiding
    the disease of being unaware of the contributions, needs, and claims of others
  • If we search inside for what we truly know to be so, we learn to 'let go of' the reductive (because
    only logical) categorizations by which we forget the symbolic character of words and lose
    connection with the vital warmth within our individual integrities, at which point we once again
    feel our special coherence with a larger whole
  • If we learn to listen to our most honest beliefs (perhaps in meditation, or in articulating an
    IHXEN), we can become aware of presuppositions (presumptions to others), integrare our senses
    of rationality and reasonability, and feel comfortably engaged in a wider range of experiences
  • If we diligently seek, through curiosity, to ground our innermost beliefs in reliable data (including
    our own emoto-linguistic reflections), we are helping the world in which we participate unfold in
    vitally new and organically sustainable ways.
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Empathic Dialogue the Authentix Way:
Conscious Approaches to Achieving Agreement
Empathicly Authentic Dialogue

True dialogue is a process by which we seek ‘containers’ capable of holding more and more of our
experience
”, says William Isaacs, a graduate of Dartmouth and the London School of
Economics, who also has a doctorate in philosophy from Oxford University, and whose
work in this field has earned respect from Ford, Motorola, and Shell – among many other
clients.  “
We can see this in the experience of a couple that continuously fights and has no ‘space’ to
understand the tensions they are feeling.  We can imagine the change they might feel if they could walk
into the arms of a very wise, understanding friend who could soothe and reassure them by letting them
know he (or she) sees the struggle each of them is going through.  He (or she) could offer the hope that
would motivate them to fight for both their own identity and each other

(from Isaacs' book "
Dialogue & the Art of Thinking Together").
Disciplines for
Empathic Dialogue the
Authentix Way
Thorough dialogue works to achieve productive agreements between any
participants having interest in both learning and practising its disciplines -- in
whatever forum or life situation one encounters.  The impulses giving rise to
intentions are life expressions, no matter what moods of destructive cynicism or
anxiety may be contaminating their manifestation or interpretation.  The task of an
"
Authentix Dialoguer" is to practise disciplines that help express and evoke
authenticity and reciprocity.  Consider the following success rate comparisons:
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We can use the principles of empathically authentic dialogue in the boardroom, the bedroom, the shop
floor, the construction site, the customer's office, the family vacation, the relative's visit, even in email
exchanges or blog or forum posts.  Doing so exercises a spirit of conversation in which ideas for an
opening toward what Churchill famously called "broad, sunlit uplands" are woven together in a
coherent tapestry of both
rational and reasonable conceptions and inquiries.  This, however, is merely a
logical statement of the theory of dialogue.  Putting the theory into practice involves gaining
proficiency in 5 essential disciplines, conditions for success in which may be summarized as follows:
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In ordinary circumstances we can take the time to 'listen' for either our own or another's needs and to
find the words to express what will move us toward what we know will raise hope and supply
practical direction, or means, for meeting them.  But in uncertain, difficult, or challenging
circumstances, we feel anxious about expressing, or listening for, unmet needs.  Doubtful that the
option of silence will 'do', we rush to interpret what we hear as requiring either a vehement defence of
ourselves or our provision of hasty, and therefore unempathic, even presumptive, suggestions.

Is there a practical way to navigate these dangerous seas that we can all learn?  Communication in a
relationship is made by two people at least, not one, and what takes place in the middle is an ethereal
mystery about which we can inquire in a dialogue in which both parties do their best to present their
empathic, authentic selves to the conversation.  If we can find a simple way that we can all
understand and easily remember for doing this, then by practising it we would be able to increase
the chances of reaching agreements when we need more than one party to solve a problem, i.e.
converse fruitfully in the discovery of needs with which the parties can help each other and others.

Authentix Coaches have found that utterance of an authentic "I have 'X emotion' now" (IHXEN,
pronounced '
Eye-Zen') statement, where 'X emotion' is limited to a noun or noun phrase, is a reliable
way, in crucial moments, for anyone to engage such capacities as he or she already has developed in
'easier' circumstances, for the purpose of creating more options for reaching sustainable agreement.  
For more about
IHXENs, how they avoid conflict, how they facilitate more productive conversation,
and how they produces outstanding returns on the investment required to become proficient in their
use, click on
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Mr. Isaacs' book quotes Peter Garrett, who has practised the idea of 'true dialogue' in maximum-
security prisons where he found offenders will attend dialogue sessions while boycotting everything
else: “
The impulse behind intentions is pure, even though the intention may be distorted and the impact not what
was intended.  Inquiring deeply enough to reach the original impulse will always reveal ‘wholesomeness’.  This
provides the confidence to enter the loudest confrontation and the darkest territory without fear that it will get
forever worse.

Sources:
Data – Conference Board of Canada as quoted in Globe & Mail of 070505 and Canadian Business & the Law, by DuPlessis et
al. published 2005 by Nelson div. of Thomson Publishing; Analysis -
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