A (non-comprehensive) List of Emotion Nouns
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We began applying the techniques of objective science to this field in the 19th
Century, and by the end of the 20th the profession most identified with that
approach -- psychiatry -- had grown to have great influence -- especially in
language communities where diagnoses have become a key factor in the
profession's system of self-organization and its compensation by government
and/or insurance companies.  
But a mind is not an object.  The convention of
repeating the means, 'objective' analysis, of the success we have had in
manipulating the physical world may be a linguistically natural one to follow,
but let us call the idea of objectivity into serious question when we find
ourselves objectifying minds!

A Cambridge friend of mine tells me that the ancient Greek, Hippocrates, said
that mind and body are not separable, but that Plato and Aristotle maintained
that they were.  Today, although we frequently use the words 'mind' and
'body', no scientist has ever been able to define in words the boundary
between a physical body and a non-physical mind.  After glibly using these
words for two thousand years since the fathers (and today their professional
sons and daughters) of Western medicine, philosophy, and science disagreed
over whether the mind and body are distinguishable scientifically, surely
today we must accept that, scientifically, they are not.  Yet people, and not just
lay people but professional people like doctors and psychiatrists, appear still
to be using the words 'mind' and 'body' as if what these two words symbolize
were actually separable.  Perhaps we need expertise in this field, not
professionalism!

Perhaps we can find clues in these two songs.  I've discussed their motifs with scores of people.  Few
women recall the man’s song.  All of both genders recall the woman’s song.  All think that the
material
lot of women improved substantially during the 20th Century and that women’s thirst to escape the
boredom (or low standing) often experienced of lives confined to the home has been substantially, but
by no means entirely, quenched.  Some wonder whether, given the hectic pace of our currently market-
driven lives, this signal improvement won by women and the men aware enough to be their political
supporters has gained anyone participating in family life – whether as a parent, child, or grandparent –
anything worth having.  Most women and some men wonder why men continue to feel misunderstood.

A problem common to both genders is, I believe, that
we live in an age in which the idea of diagnosis
is grossly misused
.  Our habit of using the tools and skills of 'scientific objectivity' to make a diagnosis
-- a habit widely held to be the source of much progress -- may now be an under-recognized trigger for
discord, disagreement, and conflict.  In this essay I discuss this hypothesis, and finding much truth in
it, then propose what I believe can be a start to finding solutions for many, if not all, of us.

The diagnostic way of thinking and conversing practiced by mainstream scientists has enabled the
Western-oriented world to have great success in manipulating objects through mechanical, chemical,
electrical, electronic, electro-magnetic, and nuclear means.  Since we know that the field of experience
in which most mental-emotional turmoil occurs is personal relations, the natural path for thought on
the subject of relationships has been to use constructs arising from those already proven successful in
science.  So what could be more linguistically natural in our evolution as a species than for people
addressing issues arising in personal relationships to utilize a practice already proven successful in
manipulating the world of objects?
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Connection and clarity from voicing a gnosis
Opportunity for a Gnosis*?
Balance in the Issues of Social Standing,
Inter-Gender Relationships, & Self-Image

(c) 2008-15, all rights reserved, by
Angus Cunningham
Principal, Authentix Coaches
angusc@authentixcoaches.com

* Gnosis: Greek word for 'self-knowing'
Do you recall the song “Killing me softly with his song”?  It was a hit a couple of
decades ago and we hear it still on soft music radio shows.  The singer is always a
woman and the song enables her to give voice to a hard-to-explain complaint: her
man’s way of being is, she feels, seriously suppressing hers -- but so softly she
scarcely can find social justification for protesting.

I’m just a guy whose intentions are good.  Oh Lord, please don’t let me be misunderstood”.  
Part of a hit song at almost the same time as
Killing me softly, these words are of a
man voicing quite another plea: for release from the agony of having his good
intentions misinterpreted as malevolent, insensitive, inappropriate, inauthentic, or
just plain crazy or wrong.

In the traditionally held gender stereotypes of the psychology of the 20th Century,
women were widely assumed to know their emotions and to be oppressed by men
who didn't, and men were assumed to be thinkers whose thoughts were often
disconnected from their emotions.  How can these core motifs of the 'war between
the genders', be reconciled for the trials we are now, in the Great Recession, all
having to meet -- by hopefully transcending our human nature(s)?
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Fortunately, some writers -- mainly from the fields of psychotherapy and alternative healing
modalities, but not often from traditionally trained psycho-analysts -- have begun in the last generation
or so to use the words 'mindbody' and 'bodymind'.  This nomenclature reflects much better what
scientists have so far been able to clarify with empirical evidence.  But, as is typical of many profound
linguistic advances, the new nomenclature is only slowly catching on.  The serious scope of this issue
becomes clearer when we think about how we are accustomed to communicate abstract ideas.  We
usually employ metaphors derived from descriptions of concrete objects – for example, 'he has a sharp
mind' – for this purpose.  Such common sayings draw on our senses of a concrete object, in this case
that of a knife or a sword, to 'point to a metaphysical concept, in this instance a quality of a person's
personality.  OK, so we all know what a knife or a sword are, but what would be the affect on a
troubled person's experience in a relationship if, for example, he or she had been diagnosed by a third
party as 'having a sharp mind'?  How would your spouse's/partner's opinion of you be affected if such
a diagnosis were made of you?  Well, you and your partner might well be able to work out a solution
if a friend were to offer such a 'natural diagnosis', although there is a risk you might not.  But what if
your partner were to pick up such a notion from a psychiatrist whom you and your partner had
visited?  Would your partner consider a psychiatrist to be an unimpeachable authority?

Many people, indeed most, are not accustomed to 'impeach' authority, but what's crucial to reflect
upon here is whether you, dear reader, are equipped, if the need arises, to do so.  Suppose, for
example, that you and your partner were having difficulty agreeing what schooling to give your child
and you had reached your wits' end trying, perhaps without formal knowledge or understanding of
communications skills, to find common ground and then a psychiatrist 'diagnoses your mind as
sharp'?  Would that affect the outcome of the issue with which you and your spouse were grappling?  
It surely would – although not in very predictable ways.

Following the tradition of the medical science out of which psychiatry was born, professionals in the
fields of psychology and psychiatry have invented ways to categorize the habits of behavior and
thought they perceive in people experiencing emotional pain into commonly occurring psychological
and psychiatric types.  But, what truly are the habits of thought observable in another when only the
outward consequence of some bodymind process, and not the thought itself, is directly observable?
 
Unless we remain scrupulously aware of such subtleties, we will be very likely to try to carry over
into personal relationships the successes our culture has had in the realm of manipulating objects by
means of diagnoses of 'pseudo-objectified minds'
.  If that happens, and it does very frequently, we
can all too easily fall into the habit of referring to each other diagnostically, i.e. as being an example of
one or another 'psychological or psychiatric type'.  Yet, when we do that, we have begin to treat each
other as having the characteristics of objects rather than of personalities capable of honest growth.

Professionals in the field of psychiatry are often ingenious in finding ways to transcend the mental and
linguistic limitations within which they and the rest of us make use of the science of their profession.  
For example, Ron Charach, who practises psychiatry in Toronto, has published eight books of poems –
the latest being "
Selected Portraits" (available from Indigo/Chapters and Amazon) – to convey his
healing messages to psychiatric survivors and their family members.  But many if not most of the rest
of us are unhappily still at the stage of studying popular books on psychoanalytic theories and its
various applications to popular clinical psychology -- books in which the linguistic limitations of
quintessentially diagnostic psycho-analysis are rarely, if at all, made clear.

When one tries the skills of analysis learned from success in predicting what will be the consequences
of actions one takes in the objective physical world of houses, cars, kitchens, and machines, into desires
for success in predicting the implications of diagnostic categories upon others, one is dipping into
pretensions to being able to mind-read.  Indeed, listening closely, one finds much presumptive mind-
reading occurring beneath the surface of many ordinary conversations today.
habit of believing we can mind-read.
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To return to the two songs with which we began.  In the first song, a woman –
apparently assuming that power resides largely outside herself – seems to
have anxiety about the subtle but devitalizing, influence a man has over her.  
Perhaps the woman is extending our species' traditional successes in
predictive thinking in the world of domestic objects by presuming that the
intentions of a man have not evolved much from his predecessors?  In the
second song, the man may be aware that the sensitivity to women's feelings of
his male predecessors was abysmal and is bemoaning his angst that, as a
consequence, women so often incorrectly presume his intentions – now much
evolved from the days when men entirely dominated public life – to be only as
insensitive as that of his predecessors’.  These are only hypotheses, of course.  
What the songwriters actually had in mind, we can only know if we have both
the
curiosity to ask and the means to gain satisfaction.  If we have too much
difficulty in one or the other, we are prone to try to meet our desires for
certainty by falling into the presumptive diagnosing toward which this essay
is drawing attention.

Let us note here that the
woman singer can scarcely be heard as not blaming
her
man.  But what, actually, is her man's intention?  Will she make the effort
to ask?
 Or will she fall into the dark hole of presumptive mind-reading?  If
the latter, she may, depending on her predisposition, either make herself feel
worse or miss an opportunity to clarify her feelings, which would 'miss out' on
giving him a chance to change his behaviour so that both she and he feel
better.  Although our guesses of another's thinking can sometimes seem to be
true, rigorous testing of this notion invariably reveals that we cannot safely or
fairly expect our guesses of another’s intentions to be entirely accurate, no
matter how widely and deeply we have studied psychoanalysis and its many
offshoots.  Given this ineluctable truth, is it not now time to start letting go of
diagnostic thinking in our approaches to developing and maintaining
relationships?
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Click on the image below if you have curiosity as to the content
or structure of Angus' new book. (It's certainly about
Human Well-Being!)

Finally, I have been using the word "diagnosticianism" to label the habits of mind in which we
compulsively diagnose others as if they/we were inanimate objects that require repair, remaking, or
"resomethingelse".  I think the term "pathologizing" is used to symbolize the actions of speech by
which "diagnosticianism" manifests verbally.  However this might be, the habit of mind that manifests
as language pointing to another as having a mental pathology is very, very often, I believe, a trigger of
another's feelings of insecurity or worse.  It can lead one to asking "empathy guess" questions that are
either quite primitive or very professional (but often not very loving!) -- until a person reaches, in my
conception, a level of intellectual understanding and
emotional maturity that:

1 -- recognizes pathologizing coming from others

2 -- avoids 'taking in' such diagnoses as signifying any aware intention to hurt another (Father, forgive
them for I do not believe they know what Freudian chimpanzees they have become
)

3 -- avoids considering instances interpreted as diagnosticianism as anything one MUST respond to
but only as the current beliefs of another (who will grow in due course because that's what life does)

4 -- gives such diagnoses space to expire of its owners/perpetrators' own accord, possibly by
disengaging (but not habitually by disengaging)

5 -- recognizes diagnosticianism as endemic in the acculturations of all of us in the past (which is not
over until it is over by some miracle of faith or heroic endurance)

6 -- seeks to let go of the habits of diagnosticianism to which one has, oneself, become "witlessly
acculturated/addicted" -- in favour of embracing, practising, and strengthening various forms and
principles of personally non-diagnostic communication

7 -- accepts that, occasionally, one may experience thinking oneself to be in the dilemma of either
letting oneself expire or learn to climb back to the joy of communicating, which itself may mean
inventing another way to avoid diagnosing others until that nirvanic day when one "escapes the
monstrous monstrance in one's social environment".

I wish you a beautiful, beautiful day.
And, what about the man singer?  Well, he's pleading with his saviour.  Will
he be saved?  Perhaps he will be.  We can certainly hope so and wish him
well.  But what if his saviour is too busy, or doesn't think the time is ripe, for
whatever reason, to do the saving requested?  What can he do then?  Because

Authentix
coaches believe that by sharing experiential wisdom on the topics
of learning and leading we all grow in ways salvational to our planetary
civilization, we have contributed on our website a series of essays on
profound issues such as this one.  You can find them by clicking on the
picture image below.


Toronto, (c) 080723-150111, excerpted from a book manuscript now being negotiated for publishication under the
title "Adventures in Dialogue" (was "
Eye-Zen English: Unpresumptively Yours and Mine", in 2015.  Permissions

This list includes all the emotions that clients of Authentix Coaches have experienced as a step
toward discovery of profound and practical new insights into situations they had, until then, been
experiencing only as extremely troublesome or perplexing.  We can use this list to gain the relief that
scientists of emotion have shown is available from labeling one's own emotion (rather than another
person's!), as you can discover from an
Abstract of a study concluded in 2000 involving fMRI brain
scans by the UCLA Unit of the United States National Institute of Mental Health.  When we do, we are
practising what
Authentix coaches term emoto-linguistic authenticity statements of self-monitoring
and self-expression.  One has then
become conscious of one's emotion rather than being helplessly
'driven' by it.  One has, in fact, begun to master the world of
Rational Emoto-Linguistics, a branch of
psycho-linguistics whose essence respects universal ethics.  And we are then empowered to begin
safely and accurately and thus vitalizingly to process the feelings associated with the emotion noun
label we have chosen.

In practising honest
IHXENs, we have found that both our clients and we arrive at remarkably valuable
insights.  
A series of such insights empowered, for example, one enterprise owner and CEO to
'unstick' a stalled debt recovery process by an email that evoked a starting repayment offer of $3
million
.  (A short narrative of this Authentix Coaches engagement, complete with its return on
investment, is available at the following
link).  Another client used the technique to find a productive
new role for an employee who had become locked in acrimonious personal controversies that were
stalling his company's productivity growth but in whom the company had invested 10 years of
learning in a rare specialty vital to the enterprise.  Others have learned to manage bipolar mood
swings without drugs and found a whole new world of stability, intimacy, and better metabolic health.

We can begin to stimulate a shift toward a more gnostic focus and expression amongst the people with
whom we have rapport by offering an
IHXEN.  This will encourage, if we are not too insistent or too
hasty, reciprocal exchanges of curiosity concerning what each others' gnoses are.  When one has
consciously in mind a label for one's emotion, one has not only begun to moderate it; one has also
begun to discover much of what we need to know both of our 'emoto-linguistic bias' (presupposition,
prejudice, or presumption)
and also of the direction that an inner voice is 'organically telling' us is
necessary now for thorough well-being
.  Such knowing facilitates honesty in the evolution of
relationships without exposing us to the risks of simplistically frank speaking, which often manifests
as projective diagnoses and frequently leads to breakdowns in communication.  We thereby minimize
the risk of inadvertently setting off painful divisions and crises that so often are triggered by
mind-reading judgments.  By such means also, we minimize the distractions and dangers of serious
misunderstandings.  
In sum, by shifting the balance of focus from diagnosis to gnosis, we acquire
the skills to express, without risk of being interpreted as having hostile intent, our own particular
authenticities.  We can also use t
he IHXEN practice to remind us that we can acquire relief from
worries about others' intents if we request a clarification
-- rather than guess in problematic
mind-reading.  In other words, we can find new ways to grow in the partnership skills of empathy
and
acknowledgement
.

In the
Age of Gnosis now dawning, might we find the ancient 'war of the sexes' slowly subsiding, in
due course, into 'a
peace of gender coherence'?!
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Awe, joy, rue, ease, hope, bliss, debt (see note 1 below), hurt (see note 2
below), love, need, rage, dread, glee, grief, guilt, jeal, mirth, peace, poise,
pride, trust, shame, shock, scorn, stress, want, thrill, angst, fear, worth (see
note 3 below), zeal, alarm (see note 4 below), anger, anguish, boredom,
caution, challenge, concern, contempt, delight, disgust, dismay, distress,
envy, fury, fatigue, horror, hurry, panic, passion, pleasure, pressure, regret,
rancor, relief, resolve, sorrow, surprise, torment, upset, worry, tension, trial,
yearning, approval, assurance, confidence, confusion, defiance, dilemma,
distraction, elation, ignorance (see note 5 below), impotence, intensity,
injustice, interest, jealousy, misgiving, potency, suffering, gratitude,
confusion, dejection, exhaustion, frustration, obsession, vexation,
ambivalence, despondency, expectancy, anxiety (see note 6 below) difficulty,
hilarity, perplexity, solemnity, tranquility, agitation, excitation,
apprehension, concentration, contemplation, disconsolation, indecision,
trepidation, curiosity, fascination, indignation, irritation, protestation,
satisfaction, anticipation, equanimity, vulnerability.
(A bigger list will be available in 2015 in a book now in manuscript form, of
which feel free to
download a 4-page 'Publisher's Preview').

OK, feeling refreshed?  What might such an approach, an approach of empathic authenticity or of
authentic empathy, require of us?  To help me convey a possible answer to this question that might
also be valid for you, please consider the “
I have 'X emotion' now“ I-statement (IHXEN), where 'X
emotion' is limited to a noun (such as 'frustration' or 'concern'), or a modified noun (such as 'rising
hope', or 'continuing doubt') or a noun phrase (such as the 'good days' or 'bad days' or 'occasional
equanimous hours' .  The
IHXEN linguistic, pronounced Eye-Zen, is actually the simplest verbal
expression of a gnosis and I and my associate
Authentix Coaches have been testing the IHXEN form
for over two decades now.  We have found that not only is an IHXEN a way of verbalizing one's own
truth of the moment (authenticity), it is also a safe way of being authentic in even very trying
circumstances because it does not intimate any insult nor does it imply any presumption to know what
is in another's mind; nor will it give rise to any controversy.  Thus
IHXEN expressions empower one to
be recognizably authentic without danger of insulting or attacking the self-image or even opinions of
another.  We have also found that, in challenging (and potentially explosive) situations, use of
IHXEN
expressions is a way of relieving emotional pressure without triggering distrust or any desire, let alone
want or need, to "push back".  Indeed we have invariably found that its use always engenders a
renewal of trust.  In other words:
IHXEN personal truths build trust, while also relieving the internal
pressure to express emotion!

To make use of this discovery, however, most us will need to expand our vocabulary of emotion
nouns, so following is a starter list for that purpose:
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New! free download, below, of 4-page
'Publisher's Preview' of a book proposal
Well, yes, but how?  Well, if we want to emerge from an "Age of Inappropriate Diagnosis", what about
exploring an "
Age of Gnosis"?  The term "Age of Gnosis" sounds quaintly and esoterically pretentious
to many, and, if it does to you, please try to keep an open mind while I bring in a few other pieces of
data that I hope you will find to be relevant to the issues posed by this essay.

Gnosis is a Greek word meaning an "incidence of knowing".  "Dia" is a Greek word meaning "across",
or sometimes "connecting".  Thus the word "diagnosis" is distinguished from the word "gnosis" as
being, often but not always, an incidence of claiming to know what is in another's mind.  This being so,
wouldn't your diagnosis of me, or my diagnosis of you, be prone to the errors of mind-reading?  Well,
yes, of course, they would.  So, instead of believing that we know what is in another's mind,
we might
now try sharing what we ourselves truly do know
.  Well, what do we actually know, and will sharing
it be safe?  We all have some ideas in mind that are properly not others to know, and so sharing some
ideas will not be safe, let alone wise.  We shall, therefore, have to develop the means to protect
ourselves both from "giving ourselves away" – whether by excessive generosity or by accidental
insult.  If we can find such ways, we would be able to leave the inaccuracies and presumptions that are
at the root of mind-reading mental diagnoses to the worlds of inanimate sciences like engineering and
physics and astronomy.  We would then permanently be able to avoid the often insulting and
unnecessarily tragic and painful building of accidental walls in relationships that the habit of resorting
to psychological diagnostics inevitably and tragically erects.  For that is indeed what such diagnoses
do: they block our best efforts to grow trust and/or intimacy.  Let us instead, therefore, find ways to
express, safely, our own gnoses more often, our own authentic, but yet non-diagnostic, knowings and
intuitions.  Let us, in other words, find again the vital and vitalizing paths of truth by practising
empathic expression of only what we authentically know, our gnoses.  Let us lay off diagnoses of
others – at least of others still alive and feeling!!
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Feel like taking a break?  This is rather a heavy subject, so please feel free to enjoy
some music here that I have found everyone loves --
Akira Miyagawa's
Beethoven's Symphony No. 5 and Mambo No.5 Combination.
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