Affects can be positive, or negative. If an idea arises in a mind possessed by a positive affect, it will be an optimistic one. Conversely, if an idea arises in a mind possessed by a negative affect, it will be a pessimistic one. Pessimistic ideas do not emerge from minds possessed by a positive affect. Likewise, optimistic ideas do not emerge from minds possessed by a negative affect. But, if we decide consciously to do so, we can often change the tone of our thinking from pessimistic to optimistic, or vice versa. However this may require inspiration, or even leadership presence, from an empathic other. When our minds are possessed by an affect, whether positive or negative, we will either need, want, or desire to express ourselves. We may do so verbally, or we may do so by another means of expression. Until we do, we will feel internal pressure, or stress. Consequently, holding our own needs, wants, or desires for expression in order to extend the empathy of hearing another’s expression requires self- discipline. We can also experience states of being that are not rooted in an affect. These are called equanimous states. Ideas emerging from these states are neither optimistic nor pessimistic. When they are tested by objective means, which is to say by an empirical or scientific test, they will be found to be rational insights. In short, if we are sure we are in an equanimous state, we can have confidence that our verbalizations of ideas emerging therefrom will, if we have the language or artistic skills to articulate them accurately, manifest as rational insights – as distinct from the intuitions we have while in a state of either positive or negative affect: |
| Ideas get verbalized, i.e. emerge, from what psychologists term an affect, which is either a more-or-less passing emotion or a more-or-less stuck mood: |
| IHXEN Partnering: Ideas, Affects, Equanimity, & Decision-Making by Angus Cunningham President, Authentix Coaches |
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This discussion of the relation of ideas to the affects in which they arise, of the nature of positive and negative affects, and of equanimous states of being tells us that, when we feel the need to make a decision in circumstances involving more than simple escape from an imminent danger, we will be wise first to enter, if we can, an equanimous state. (Of course, in circumstances such as the imminence of getting run over by a bus, our instincts usually serve us well for "personally rational" decision- making in such circumstances is already programmed into us as an inheritance). Traditionally, we have entered equanimous states by means either of meditation or of scientific analysis. In meditation, we deliberately take ourselves as far as possible from externalities that we know will impose an affect on our minds. In scientific analysis, we deliberately acquire as much certainty as possible as to what our externalities actually are or will be. The specific methods available to us for either meditation or scientific analysis are many. But whichever we use, we seek a course of action or intention that will be either useful or healthy for us to implement. And unfortunately, if we fail to enter an equanimous state before making our decision among the options then known to us, we may advance only our own well-being at the expense of others, which ultimately means we will advance neither for long. “I have X emotion now” is a linguistic that can help us become conscious of whatever affect may be biasing our minds. This linguistic, known by the acronym IHXEN and conveniently pronounced Eye- Zen, enables us consciously to label our emotions. UCLA scientists at the National Institute of Mental Health have demonstrated with fMRI scans that labeling our emotions is a source of relief from strongly negative ones like anger and fear. Thus use of the IHXEN linguistic can be a relief from strong affects. With further practice, one can use IHXENs to learn to “wobble manageably” between mildly positive and mildly negative affects -- until we know we are in an equanimous state between the two. Authentix Coaches have proved this in practice with our clients. If you click on the following link you will find some client testimonials, and, on the next link, you will find a short account of the spectacular pay-off that one particular Authentix client won from his investment in IHXEN coaching. We can use IHXENs either privately or we can exchange them with another. Because we all grow up quite skilled at telling the affect of our caregivers, we can reasonably expect another to recognize whether our own honestly articulated IHXENs are accurate. Since few of us are consciously aware of our affects, having an IHXEN partner with whom one agrees to exchange IHXENs can be very helpful in gaining IHXEN proficiency. If we lack one, we can resort to writing and explaining our IHXENs, and, if we later read our writing, it will give us feedback, albeit delayed. Thus, either through partnering or through writing, we can use the IHXEN linguistic to gain proficiency in knowing very accurately what our emotions are and thus to know when our states are equanimous or otherwise. Once “IHXEN self-aware”, one finds one rapidly gains clarity as to what one’s present needs, wants, and desires truly are. One also can learn to reach equanimous states without having to take time out to meditate. Since these are, of course, the only states of being from which we can distinguish insight from intuitions and thus make truly rational decisions, being able to reach them quickly through IHXENs is a helpful skill to add to our decision-making repertoires. Lastly, since IHXENS are today quite unconventional -- although executives do frequently intone "I have concern ..." when wanting to convey empathy, they feel unnatural initially. I have therefore found that I must prepare people for their use in our coaching sessions. I usually do this with a few "I have gratitude ...'s", "I have concern .....'s", etc., that I take care to be sure actually do clearly articulate my authentic emotion at that moment; and I then proceed to prepare my client to be "OK" with my use of the word emotion in relation to both someone not present and myself. Then, at a time when I feel very certain that my client is having trouble expressing him/herself authentically, I will very carefully interrupt his/her "unwitting flight into fantasy" with the following: "I have curiosity now", which will then indeed be very true. "What emotion do you have now?". Usually this elicits a smile of embarrassment. I then help my client to articulate what we both agree is an authentic IHXEN for the circumstance in which he/she took off in a flight of fantasy (verbal manure). In the process, the client will invariably get an insight into something of considerable mystery up to that point to him/her. This insight may be a personal insight, i.e. one about his/her own pattern of habitual behaviour, or it may be an insight into his/her enterprise or organizational work or career. In either case it will in due course become a key factor in recognizing the need from which an emotion always springs. When each partner (or one's coach) feels that the IHXENs exchanged are accurate, it has become time to identify the needs to which the emotions point, and at that stage the following table outlining a range of possible "articulator intents" can be used, along with other models of interpersonal rationality, to articulate needs with IHYNNs (the "I have 'Y need' now" linguistic). |
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